锘?Finding out that my husband was cheating sent me way over the edge and I said some things I really regret now that I’ve calmed down. How do I get my husband to forgive me for the things I said after I found out he cheated on me?"

People often say things they don’t mean when they are hurt and angry. Finding out your husband has been cheating on you is one of the few times in life when it is completely understandable that you would say things you don’t mean.

It’s natural but in a more professional way, it should not be. He needs to be understood and a wife needs to know his needs. He will not seek for someone else if you know his needs and if you doing good when it comes to your responsibility as a wife.

If you said something wrong that hurt him that much, here are some thoughts that you can used to get his attention back and fix the problem.

1)Ask him for it. He probably understands, better than you believe he does at this point, how much a good marriage is worth. He doesn’t want things to end no matter how many hurtful things you’ve said and done to one another. Ask him for his forgiveness and his response just might surprise you in a very good way.

2)Fully admit your guilt. A fully admission of guilt will give an effective and meaningful apology. Whatever method you’ll used to extend your apology it will not work if you’ll not accept the guilt in your heart. You have to acknowledge your offense even he made something stupid first. If you are truly sorry, then this shouldn’t be difficult.

3)Don’t justify. Just apologize. You don’t need to make excuses for the things you said and the last thing you want to do right now is start a new argument over who really is at fault. Make your apology your apology and leave it at that. He will either accept it or not. If he does, you can move forward. If he doesn’t you can go back to the drawing board.